Sunday, June 28, 2009

Don't forget to choose

It's one thing to observe and talk, it's another to get out there and do it. Walk the talk - as they say. I had a realization today about walking my own talk and it fits well with the 6th guideline - don't forget to choose.

I get triggered by actions that are wasteful. When I see waste of just about any kind, it really bugs me. I get upset and physically I can feel myself tense up over it. Any waste. The other day someone's dog had been killed in the express lanes of a highway in Toronto - we drove by. How did it get there? There are concrete barriers all around. Obviously, it was released there by some careless, thoughtless and cruel person. Waste. I was upset. Last night we ran out of hot water here in my home. We'd had a new water heater installed that was high efficiency, but smaller than the old one. The new heater should be big enough for a family of 5 - there are two of us here. I expected energy savings and less fossil fuel burn. After a long shower my wife couldn't get the jacuzzi tub filled before the hot water ran out. Disappointing - yes. It also triggered me because a lot of hot water had to be "wasted" in a long drawn out shower for that to happen. I was triggered by that and by my wife's complaints that the tank is not sufficient for our needs. No consideration was given to the volume of water that had to be consumed for that to happen. I was triggered by that.

I talk about observing, allowing and knowing that I'm abundant, etc. But I was triggered by lack. Waste only exists if there is lack. Green arguments about burning too much gas aside, we do have abundant gas but times are tight. We don't have abundant cash to pay for it. I was triggered by that deeper fear of lack of cash. I pushed against it - I reminded my wife about the gas needed to heat that much water. Why not take a shorter shower? I can probably take 10 for each one of hers after all. All that comes from a fear of lack. How can I allow abundance into my life if I fear lack. I'm pushing against lack all the time. And by doing that, I'm giving it energy. I'm creating lack. It hit me this morning as I was writing in my daily journal. If I were walking my talk, I'd have allowed it and not been triggered. We'd still need the larger tank back again, but it wouldn't be an issue.

By choosing to know that I am abundant I move away from lack and the energy of lack. I bring abundance into my life. I allow it. I was pushing against it by giving power to my fear of lack.

It only takes a change in what I'm choosing. I choose to allow. Not tolerate - that's what I did up to now. I tolerated the wasteful behavior - tolerance is an allowance coupled with a negative judgment. It's really a form of passive aggressive push against what I don't want. And it gives that thing I don't want energy. Stop the push. Allow. Get rid of the judgment and tolerance becomes allowance. It's just a choice away.

I had forgotten to choose. Don't forget to choose.

Monday, June 22, 2009

Remember humor

OK - so I am spelling humor for a broader North American audience - up here in the "Great White North" (GWN) a.k.a. Canada it is spelled, humour. My computer tells me that is a mis-spelling.

Why "humor"? When we laugh we release toxins from our bodies. It's a natural high - ask anyone who's tried Laughter Yoga. We've tried it and it's a hoot. At first we felt like we were forcing it - we were! But it didn't take long to realize that so is everyone else - there's a great deal of humor in that realization. Here we were - a bunch of adults with a few teeens all laughing and giggling at nothing in particular. That's fun, and laughing isn't the only sign of humor in our lives. Just look at the humor in how we spell words differently in different places.

Humor is in just about everything we do once you begin to see it. It's humorous that we say we want to expand our lives yet we stay stuck in our fears. We can't expand if we give power to fear and stay stuck where we are. I study with The Wonders. On many occasions they've seen that I'm stuck - my energy isn't flowing and I'm in a form of reduction. Fear over money is one of my big triggers that often gets me there. To free up my energy so that flow can occur they suggest that I go play. I'm an adult who truly doesn't just play - I'm way too serious. Yet when I do take their advice, go out and do something that I enjoy, good things happen. I'll come back from my "play", even if it's fairly structured play, and something new and good has happened. There will be more work from clients, there will be another proposal opportunity. Someone will be asking for advice. I'll be invited to speak somewhere. The play is fun and releases energy. The humor is in the dichotomy - I want to expand but I contract through my choices.

You might not think of that as humor, but if it were a script in a movie you'd probably find it humorous, even funny in the right circumstances. We do tend to laugh at ourselves, or at least at others when we see them in situations. The more of a hand they had in creating it, the more funny it can be. A great deal of our "humor" is self-deprecating and degrading in some way. Notice how that is pointing out the funny side of the human condition to us. We tend to reduce ourselves while professing to expand.

Humor is everywhere. Observe it. We tend to take ourselves way too seriously. I don't recall where I first heard this, but the advice is sound, "never get too personally involved in your own life". See the humor in what you do. The incongruities between what you say you want and what you create in your life. There is humor in that. Stop being so serious - it only takes you down the path of reduction. If you want to expand, release the energy. Let it work for you rather than bottling it up.

I used to keep my spirituality to myself. I rarely talked about it and I wouldn't bring it up in business situations. That took at lot of energy. And look at the humor - I wanted to be a more spiritual person / being, but I was hiding it. How un-spiritual is that?

Let go. See the humor. There are lessons in it for us all.

Monday, June 15, 2009

Know that you are abundant

Most of us have heard of, seen the movie or read Rhonda Byrne's book, "The Secret". You may know of Wayne Dwyer's "The Power of Intention" or "Esther and Jerry Hicks, "The Law of Attraction". On the surface they seem to be "get rich quick" schemes you can use, or perhaps for the authors if you tend to be judgmental and skeptical.

Never-the-less, they are all remarkably common in the message they deliver and they are all based on the same underlying truth - we are abundant. Taking that a step further, we are abundance. To understand that more fully check out The Wonders.

The Wonders are a "collective energy consciousness" that I study with. They are amazing - it's like talking to "God" except that it's really more accurate to say, "the consciousness of all that is". They show us that we are abundance and that we really only need to choose it in order to manifest it. The messaging in the the books above all tells us "how to" do it. It's important that we do it with all our being, not just our words. Those are only a part. How we think and act also reflect what we are choosing. To truly choose abundance we must KNOW that we are abundant.

What we have and have had are a small fraction of what we have available to us if we choose. The limits of what we have reflect our own limits and limitations. We often sabotage ourselves in the choices we make. But that doesn't matter. We are where we are. We can always choose differently and change what comes next.

A few years ago I was unhappy in my job in a large firm. I was in a senior position and well paid but I didn't enjoy the company or the way I had to work there any more. I chose to change it. Quit the job, started my own business. It's been fun ever since. Yes there are ups and downs. I've chosen to experience it all. Now we are coming out of a tailspin that was chosen. I didn't have to get wrapped up in the negativity of the news and the economy. After all, it isn't all bad, yet I thought it was. And so it was for me. My reality began to reflect that too. Now I'm taking a much more optimistic perspective and enjoying abundant opportunities for new buisness and new clients with tremendous earning potential for me, my colleagues and my company.

It begins with knowing that you are abundant.

Express yourself truthfully

It's one thing to be honest with oneself. Now extend that to all around you. Express yourself truthfully. By sharing this way, you release stress and worry. You are being more loving to yourself.

Imagine keeping a secret from people you are with regularly - your spouse, your children, your friends, co-workers, boss, etc. It's not easy. It requires energy and that drains you. Fill yourself with love by loving yourself. Stop draining the energy from yourself by hiding. Express yourself truthfully.

Not only will this be good for you, it will be better for those who interact with you. They will know just where they stand. How often have you been in disagreements or other uncomfortable situations because of mis-understandings? And how often have those mis-understandings been a result of information that someone is witholding? It happens all the time. Expressing yourself truthfully gets past all of that and opens the door to more loving relationships. As you love yourself more, you will be loved by more.

Imagine the problems in our world today that could be solved if people expressed themselves truthfully. More disease would be cured for example, if the pharmaceutical industry admitted openly that it only deals with symptoms - it does not cure anything. Likewise how much less pain and suffering would exist if self-proclaimed religious people would express themselves truthfully - stopped with the dogma (which invariably is someone else's interpretation) and were honest with themselves and others. Religions all preach love and appreciation in their own way. But they don't practice it. They make all sorts of rules and exclusions. They are not being honest and people get caught up in the dishonesty of it all.

Express yourself truthfully. Try it, you'll like it. It is very freeing for you personally and it opens up doors you might not expect.

Always speak your truth - to yourself and to those around you.

Wednesday, June 10, 2009

Be honest with yourself

Here's a challenging question to ask yourself: how many times have I been dishonest with myself?

After a long period of feeling blocked, work wasn't coming into my firm, income has been very low so far this year, I've been feeling stressed and unhappy I began to do something I used to do quite a lot. There's a book called, "The Artists Way," by Julia Cameron. In it is an exercise in writing to release blocked creative energy. The exercise is called, "morning pages." You write 3 pages (more or less) first thing each day. Just write about whatever comes to mind - no limits, or rules except to write what comes first. I had been doing that for a couple of years and business was great. It had plateaued and I wanted growth, but it had plateaued at a comfortable level. I chose to grow the business and expand my life. We bought a house and moved, we focused on a new service line and we ramped up our sales efforts. And the markets crashed. I got wrapped up in the negatives and focused a lot of my energy on them, even though, at the time we were not in bad shape.

I stopped writing my morning pages. That exercise had become quite an outlet for me. I could reflect, ramble, dream and choose. I expressed myself there. It was pretty honest and I got deep into some of my psyche. I found that by expressing myself honestly there I could shift what was going on in my life. And then I let life happen to me and got side-tracked. The reduction / decline began. It's been a rough year in financial terms, but when I reflect on it, there is still a great deal of opportunity / abundance there. I began to write again.

I regained focus and composure. Put things in perspective for myself. I have made some choices: the have more fun, play (unblock), relax (love myself), exercise more (love myself), truly appreciate the love that's around me (our cats, our dog, my wife), observe and appreciate the abundance of opportunities. Despite the slow down in client work there has been no shortage of opportunities to bid on, companies in search of improvements we can help them with, people calling for help. They might be blocked right now and unable to progress to contract, but that won't last - it never does. As I unblock, so will they. It's only natural that happen. If you've read the "Law of Attraction" by Esther and Jerry Hicks, then you'll know what I'm saying.

I've had to be honest with myself. The push for work was a push against lack. It was driven by fear. What you fear and give power to, you bring on. You give it energy and so you accelerate it towards you (or you to it). I've been told, time and again by The Wonders, to play, to stop pushing, relax, don't work so hard, simply choose and allow the abundance to come to me. I've resisted that advice. But it's all around me - why not just give it a try? So I am. I feel much lighter just from choosing to do that. I walked the dog - it was a good long walk with a loving companion who I hadn't been appreciating as I could. I just did the walk, enjoyed his company and felt really good about it. I felt connected in a way that I hadn't before, even though we've had him for about a year.

Being honest with myself has helped me see the ways that I sabotage my desires. I have allowed fear to overcome my thoughts and that led to control of my actions - all headed straight into whatever I feared. Time to unblock. Now that I realize that so clearly I can choose differently. I feel good in that choice too.

Being honest with yourself is critical to achieving what you are seeking to achieve - whatever that is. Pause, reflect, dig deep, don't judge what you find, just observe it and then you can choose. Continue or change. Honesty with yourself is the key to discovering yourself. Once discovered you can explore.

Sunday, June 7, 2009

Love and appreciate yourself

Self appreciation and self love are key to being spiritual. We are all part of the same universe and we are all part of the same universal energy that makes it up. If you can appreciate anyone or anything else at all, then you are appreciating a part of yourself. If you can love, then you can love yourself. And the reverse is true.

Loving and appreciating yourself enables you to love and appreciate what it is that surrounds you. Notice how healthy you are and how you feel better when you are taking care of yourself. You exercise, eat well and get the rest your body requires. Those are all ways of loving yourself.

Ever make a mistake? Sure you have. We all have. Do you beat yourself up over it? Or, do you learn from it? Mistakes are opportunities to learn. In that sense, they aren't mistakes at all. If you can appreciate yourself for giving yourself that opportunity to learn, then you are learning to love yourself too. Beating yourself up is stressful. Stress is perhaps the #1 killer in our society today. So many diseases are stress related. So why add to it? Love yourself. You can love yourself by appreciating yourself. No need to judge and create harm.

You appreciate as you learn to observe. Don't judge yourself as good or bad. Just observe. Look at yourself as if you were looking through the lens of a camera. It just records what's there. It doesn't judge. As you appreciate yourself more, you learn about yourself. Oh, you have certain preferences, certain habits, certain addictions, certain loves, certain ... You can then choose. Do you wish to continue with them all? Perhaps you'd prefer to change some of them. Through observation without judgment you can appreciate and choose. If you choose to love yourself, then your following choices will reflect that choice, provided you are conscious of your choices.

Many of us live on "auto-pilot" for a good portion of our lives. We develop habits and so on that we repeat. Some of beneficial and some are harmful. Appreciating those enables us to choose them consciously, or to choose to change them. Conscious living is about getting out of those habits - taking your life off of auto-pilot and commanding its direction. That is love!

As you appreciate and love yourself you can see more in others. Again, observe without judgment. As you see your habits you can see them in others. As you shift your choices those around you will shift. Your entire environment, your existence will shift towards one that is more loving to you. You do create your live, your existence, all its circumstances and events through your choices - both conscious and unconscious. Even events like being in an automobile accident are by choice. You may not have wanted it, but you did choose it. The simple act of being there (a choice) helped. But before that you likely chose to be in an accident. Even thinking you'd like to avoid it, gives it energy. You create a push against something you don't want, but that only gives it energy. Becoming more aware of your choices and the effect they have is powerful. You have the power to create.

As you appreciate yourself more, you learn that. Appreciate and love yourself. The more you do, the more you'll create of what you want.

Wednesday, June 3, 2009

Love and Appreciation

Deep inside each of us a "consciousness" is at work. It pervades our thoughts, words and actions. Humanity as a whole has a group consciousness that pervades - fear and judgment. That of course is leading to the state of the world today - and it's a mess as we'd all agree. Here's a suggested new direction to take humanity. Shift that underlying consciousness and we change our thoughts, words and actions. The world becomes a nicer place by far. Switch to a consciousness of love and appreciation.

As a spiritual person I'm expanding my conscious awareness of myself and the universe around me. My journey is aided by the conversations I have with The Wonders. They are a "collective energy consciousness" channeled by Rene Gaudette. You can think of them as "god" although that's not what they are. Their messages are full of love and appreciation. Speaking with them is just like talking to "god." The conversations are recorded. It's not just in your head. Tonight, along with several of my friends, we were engaged in a study group with The Wonders. They shared with us these six guidelines. How to live a spiritual life:
1. Love and appreciate yourself.
2. Be honest with yourself.
3. Express yourself truthfully.
4. Know that you are abundant.
5. Remember humor.
6. Don't forget to choose.
These appear simple enough, but they are quite deep. Give them thought. Consider what the world would be like if we all lived by these guidelines.

There are a couple of other facts that we learned and if you really think deeply about this, they are indeed true:
1. Nothing and no one can harm you unless you choose to allow it.
2. There is nothing greater than or lesser than yourself.

I choose to live by all of these and to share them.

In future posts, I will explain my understanding of each of these. In the meantime, I urge you to give them a try.

If you'd like to hear these check out this posting on YOU TUBE: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=S5DMJA1GbeY